We lack grace and politeness in our transactions..
I am finding that more and more in soocial media and elsewhere too.
The participants usually pretend to have more than life images of themselves especially in socal media.
I know that with reasonable conviction because lots and lots of friends in social media are real life friends too for me..
I do not mind, nor grudge anyone's attempts at projecting themselves in brighter colours..
But usually the best way to steal the show is to throw veiled contemptuous gestures at others.. And people do that effectively;
If it is an open contempt, the person at the receiving end can easily throw him out of his own circle, and be peaceful..
But many profess a lot of closeness and camaraderie and hardly lose any opportunity to kick and cause wounds..
It is indeed very difficult to deal with such people
And then there are the wisecracks..
Of course everyone else other than the one who cracks his wisdom know about it.
And their nuisance value is too high..
I had a very irritating experience..
During a discussion, I was quoting things from some standard texts and the conversation progressed and the person on the other side, who is a virtual friend too, asked me to make available for his study or reading some written materials prepared by me as a result of a long period of labour and study by me..
I was foolishly earnest and made available to him some really valuable reading material.. I would say valuable in my own reckoning.. through a personal message..
Pat came the reply that it has been received and that it would be taken as reading material during weekend and that I should supply more material..
The reply struck me as very crude..very rude indeed
My work is definitely not for leisurely reading during weekend moments..
Moreover, the immediate response had come very clearly without even caring to download and open the document so earnestly and dutifully sent by me..
If he had not acknowledged, I would not have minded..
But his reply revealed that the result of my hard work, supplied to him free and with a lot of goodwill was of very inferior priority for him..
I really do not know how to deal with such wise guys..
Of course I will not waste my time, precious or not, on him any more..
There was another occasion when one persons wanted me to locate and translate for him some rare hymns and I obliged within hours and forwarded the material through personal e mail.
There was absolute silence about the receipt although I had requested for confirmation..
I would have ended the story there..
But I have received more messages from him asking for more translations.
Just think of the thickness of the skin..
And of course I have chosen to ignore him..
A young lady from Coimbatore, I remember, asked me to send her many stotrams with translation in Englsih and I was prompt in my response but the communication became cold from her side once the purpose was served..
And to my disappointment, I found from many of her posts that she is rather flamboyant and modish and had little care for religious and spiritual matters.. Then I wonder why did she bother me .. ?
I know I was an idiot in the first place in responding to her..
I really do not know how to deal with such boils in the buttocks..
I can unfriend them and even block them..
But more such avatars mushroom..
Life is so funny..